Mar 6Internal Inclusion. It’s an inside job.In my work as a psychotherapist and now as someone helping to facilitate conversations on inclusion, something has become clearer to me. It is much harder to practice inclusion with others while we continue to exclude parts of ourselves. The way we treat others is a reflection of how we…Inclusion4 min readInclusion4 min read
Nov 8, 2022Addiction, Jesus Christ, C.S. Lewis and the TV show SeveranceAddiction, Jesus Christ, C.S. Lewis and the TV show Severance Have you seen the show on Apple TV, Severance? I think it’s one of the best shows I have seen in a while. It is a slow starter but man does it pack a punch. The premise of the show…Addiction5 min readAddiction5 min read
Sep 16, 2022Top Tips for GrievingGrief dislocates us from normal life. Whether our loss is sudden or gradual, whether it’s the loss of a loved one, a relationship or job or friends, grief disrupts and disorientates. As I write the UK is in a period of mourning for our Queen who has died. This loss…Grief2 min readGrief2 min read
May 4, 2022What if you lived your other life?We live in a time of the multiverse. You can create and live in multiple worlds in virtual reality and games. This seems new but the idea of multiple possible lives is not. The film Sliding Doors explored the idea of ‘what if?’ It tells two stories, one is the…Storytelling3 min readStorytelling3 min read
Mar 9, 2022Is any story big enough for THIS?Our media is pouring out rivers and oceans of horror, devastation, bravery and fear. We are deluged in a tsunami of tears, trauma and grief as we identify with the people of Ukraine. Can any story, any narrative possibly contain this level of suffering? Surely all our political, social, cultural…Storytelling2 min readStorytelling2 min read
Jan 20, 2022Improvising lifeHow much are we creating the life we live and how much are we simply following the scripts that have been laid out for us? We grow up in narrative boxes. Some of these are given us by school, family or culture. Others can be defensive reactions to being hurt…Improvisation4 min readImprovisation4 min read
Dec 29, 2021New year-New you. (Escaping your bad stories)I was born on an island. I never met my mother because she left the hospital without me. She left. I stayed. Maybe that’s where my story started. The story that I have been trapped in for most of my life. Or maybe it was when I was 17 and…Storytelling7 min readStorytelling7 min read
Oct 4, 2021Who Are You?I have been grappling with this question all my life. In my book ‘Get Unstuck, Change the Script, Change your Life’ I describe how our identity is usually no more than a script we have cobbled together from our experiences, our culture, family and even the geography of our lives…Identity5 min readIdentity5 min read
Jul 7, 2021Shame-Drop the rockI came into this world carrying a rock. It was a rock called shame. I have continued to carry this secret load for many years. It was an unquestioned part of me. My mother conceived me outside the framework of her culture. Probably in a one night stand. The news…4 min read4 min read
Jun 27, 20213 steps to a new lifeStep1 Map the old story As a therapist helping people map out the stories they have been telling themselves is a core part of my work. These stories may be full of unquestioned assumptions about what life is like and how to behave. They are often quite unconscious and deeply…Storytelling3 min readStorytelling3 min read
